And the break up... and the drama... and the cheating.

[alex3000]

So it's finally over.

We dated for nine months and we broke up. Then we dated again for four more months and now it's finally over.

It was over before it was actually over. I wanted to break up with him mainly because the "spark" was gone ... long gone. I like him as the person that he is, but I didn't like him as my boyfriend anymore. It was too much. School keeps me busy and when I wasn't busy, I'd go out with my friends. I'd rarely stay home and do nothing ... but I'm even tired of going out. Whether it was with him or with my friends, there were days when I just wanted to stay home and do nothing. Today was one of those days. You know, I wish I didn't "have a life".

... I had been wanting to break up with him for a while but I just couldn't find the right moment.

First, his grandmother died (they were really close, she was like his second mom). Then, it was his birthday. Then, Valentine's Day... Ugh...

We would fight all the time. For every single little thing... for everything! He'd swear I was cheating on him. He swears seeing me driving away in my car at night (he's my neighbor). He wouldn't believe anything I'd tell him. I even caught him going through my text messages once.

The thing is that, he was so convienced that I was cheating on him, that he ended up cheating on me. He just cheated on me less than two hours ago.

He texted me and he asked me to come out. He told me that he was in his car. I went outside and I saw his car parked in front of my house. As I got closer to the car, I realized there were two people inside. They were making out and one of them was my ex-boyfriend.

He saw me and he got out of the car and he said, "That's for cheating on me and blah blah blah..." the drama begun.

At first I was shocked and kind of traumatized. I had never seen my boyfriend making out with someone else.

Now, even though I didn't really have any feelings for him, I'm hurt. I'm really really hurt. And I'm mad as well because, honestly, that was mean. I cannot believe he would so something like that to try to hurt me... to try to take revenge... to try to ... I don't know. It was just mean.

But yeah... it's over. I just didn't want it end up in an ugly way.

Uhh... :(

[godblessbotox]

that sucks dude... but isnt this better suited for myspace?

[LSyd]

you're probably better off without him, he sounds like an asshole. it'll probably take a few months for you to realize this.

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[soup or man]

Slash his tires and pour sugar in his gas tank.

But in all actuality, I can relate to what you are going through. My ex boyfriend cheated on me after 3 years together. Of course it hurt. Even though it happened back in 2004, I still think about him. However, you should realize that what your boyfriend did was wrong. Nothing good can come out of this situation other than if something is going wrong in the relationship, sit and talk about it with whoever you are with (this goes for you straight people too) and try to meet in the middle. If you choose to ignore the problems, they will continue to grow and multiply until something explodes and all those involved are going to get hurt.

This is the point where your mind is mushy right now. You really don't know what happened or what to do. Sit and think. Cry if you want. I'm sorry that it happened. It does happen. It sucks ass that it happens but it does happen.

Hope things work out.

[bruin787]

i love revenge. can i help out? :banana:

[klamedia]

Wait a minute.......Alex said he didn't have any feelings for the guy and wanted to break up with him all along so it kinda serves you right Alex, I hate to say. Should have broken up with him earlier and not just strung him along. It sounds like more of your ego and pride is hurt than your true heartfelt feelings for the guy, if you ever had any. And tell us the truth, I mean now that you've come this far, you did cheat on him right?

[trojans14]

What a bitch! Well its over now so just move on. And you said you didn't have feelings for him so that shouldn't be hard at all. No matter how bad he hurt your pride, don't try to get revenge; that would only make this whole situation turn ugly.

[alex3000]

that sucks dude... but isnt this better suited for myspace?
Yeah... just not in my MySpace. A lot of his friends are my friends as well and uuhhh ... well, my MySpace is relatively drama free right now. I kind of want to keep it that way.

you're probably better off without him, he sounds like an asshole. it'll probably take a few months for you to realize this.

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That's the thing. I don't ... or, at least I didn't see him as one. I still can't believe he'd do something like that. I used to see him as this really cool, nice, friendly, soft-hearted guy.

Now, I don't know. He showed me his darkest side and ... his "dark side" is a really really "dark one", I'd say. I still have that imagine of him in my mind and ... it's even scary. You could see all that hate in his eyes and tone of voice and ... The thing is that that imagine I had of him is gone and I don't think I want to talk to him ... ever again.


Slash his tires and pour sugar in his gas tank.

But in all actuality, I can relate to what you are going through. My ex boyfriend cheated on me after 3 years together. Of course it hurt. Even though it happened back in 2004, I still think about him. However, you should realize that what your boyfriend did was wrong. Nothing good can come out of this situation other than if something is going wrong in the relationship, sit and talk about it with whoever you are with (this goes for you straight people too) and try to meet in the middle. If you choose to ignore the problems, they will continue to grow and multiply until something explodes and all those involved are going to get hurt.

This is the point where your mind is mushy right now. You really don't know what happened or what to do. Sit and think. Cry if you want. I'm sorry that it happened. It does happen. It sucks ass that it happens but it does happen.

Hope things work out.
Thanks. ;) I haven't really had the time to "think abou it". I've been really busy and besides, I don't think there's much to think about. I mean, what's there's to think about? If I think about it, I'm only going to get mad and I'm not going to do anything about it.

Cry? That's not really my thing, besides the fact that I don't think I want to cry in this particular situation. And, even if I felt like crying, I wouldn't. "They say crying sometimes make you feel better, but not crying always makes you stronger." ;)



i love revenge. can i help out? :banana:
Hah... No, I don't think I want revenge. But thanks anyway, lol. :tongue3:

Wait a minute.......Alex said he didn't have any feelings for the guy and wanted to break up with him all along so it kinda serves you right Alex, I hate to say. Should have broken up with him earlier and not just strung him along. It sounds like more of your ego and pride is hurt than your true heartfelt feelings for the guy, if you ever had any. And tell us the truth, I mean now that you've come this far, you did cheat on him right?
Serves me right? How so?

Yes, I didn't have feelings for him anymore and I was planning on breaking up with him within the next few weeks. I'm pretty sure he knew our relationship wasn't going to last long.

I mean, we'd fight all the time, he thought I was cheating on him, we wouldn't go out as often, there was very little affection between us, and, eventually, I stopped caring about our relationship.

Before, when he'd get mad at me for no reason, I'd try to make him "happy". I'd say sorry even if I hadn't done anything wrong. I'd try to please him even if there wasn't a reason for me to please him. But, I got tired.

Usually, when there was something "wrong" (with him), I'd ask him what was wrong. He'd say "nothing" and I'd ask again until I got him to tell me what was bothering him. It was usually something stupid. Something that had nothing to do with me but that somehow, according to him, it was my fault. So stupid me would be like, "Oh... I'm sorry if I offended you..." "Oh, I'm sorry if that bothered you" "Oh, I'm sorry... I was just kidding..." "Oh... I'm sorry... Ok?" "I'm sorry..." "I'm sorry..." "I'm sorry..." etc etc etc...

But then, I didn't care. If thought there was something wrong with him, I'd ask him. As always, he would say, "nothing". So I'd be like, "Ok" and I'd move on to whatever I wanted to talk about.

And... I don't even know where I'm going with all this. I never cheated on him and I'd never cheat on anyone. I was never even close to cheating on him and he didn't really have any reasons to think I was cheating on him. And yes, part of the reason why I'm hurt is because it affected my ego and pride... but what hurts me the most is all the evilness, the cruelty, and the bittterness involved in his actions. It hurts me to know that someone I cared about, because I really did care about him, tried to hurt me in such a low way. That's why I'm hurt...


What a bitch! Well its over now so just move on. And you said you didn't have feelings for him so that shouldn't be hard at all. No matter how bad he hurt your pride, don't try to get revenge; that would only make this whole situation turn ugly.

No, I'm not going to take revenge.

I'm not even going to start dating again, which is what most people rush to after the break up. I wasn't planning on dating other people after I would break up with him ... I just wanted to be single and that's what I'm going to do. Stay single for a while ... until something happens or I don't know...

[Fern~Fern*]

I would date his sister and have her on all fours, doggy style in his bed.... But make sure you call him first!

[ArchiTennis]

I would date his sister and have her on all fours, doggy style in his bed.... But make sure you call him first!

:banana: :banana: :banana: :lol: :lol: :lol:

I'll date her too and him at the same time...then i'll break both of their hearts!! :lol: :lol:

[klamedia]

Oh well, good thing you really didn't care about him in the first place, makes it that much easier to move on.

[Fern~Fern*]

OMG is Alex still butt hurt.... Wow what an emotional wreck he must be going thru. So just go to a club an meet someone else....

[alex3000]

^
Funny... I actually did go to a club yesterday (TigerHeat).

It was ... ok, I guess.

But I pretty much just went there to dance out all the stress from finals ... well, dance out all the stress at least for some hours, because finals are next week and I still have to study. :sleepy:

[Fern~Fern*]

So no such luck @ TigerHeat I see... Maybe you need a makeover or come out on that show "What not to wear".

[alex3000]

Hahah...

At this rate I'm going to end up like Britney Spears ... shaving my head. Which is not that bad, if you think about it. I'll get to hang out with Paris Hilton. :tongue3:

[godblessbotox]

just dont drive around with a baby in your lap, or worse. your little dog :ohno: